Becoming a Wife Without Becoming an Adult”

The strangest thing about getting married young:

Everyone assumes you become a wife and become an adult at the same time.

I became a wife.

The adult part lagged behind… buffering… crashing… restarting.

My executive functioning stayed in childhood while my responsibilities jumped ten levels up.

But he never demands that I “be more.”

He never holds a ruler to my chaos.

He simply… adapts.

I never cook. I do not clean. He shooed away expectations like houseflies.

I didn’t grow up that year.

But his patience did give me room to finally try.